Motherhood on Purpose

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“Passing on the gift of inspiration to our children is partly a matter of vision, which helps them understand that God wants to use them in this world to spread his kingdom… The vision defines the purposes of God, but compassion defines the heart of the vision.”

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“We are given one chance to live on earth, and the true measure of our success will be our faith, our faithfulness, and our obedience.”

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“When it comes to protecting and preparing our children for all that will happen in their lives, the gift of a disciplined mind is one that truly keeps on giving.”

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“It is natural to be selfish or self absorbed. Everybody is naturally like that. It is supernatural to see the needs and desire of others and seek their best through your actions.”

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“As we launch our children into life from the sanctuary of our homes, the intangible gifts of God will go with them and help equip them for his service. In this, the ministry of motherhood will find its completion.”

Quoted from The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson

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Balance

I’ve entered into a new season of life and it’s exciting and changing. When I reflect on my responsibilities it amuses me because not one thing was on my ‘life radar’.

In my life I would be dressed up every day heading to an office where I’d climb a corporate ladder and be self-sufficient in my finances. Instead, I’m at home (often in my pajamas) out on complete faith, repeating scripture back to God.

In my life I would have dreamt of being a fashion designer with no confidence to try. Instead, I’ve drawn fashion illustrations (when I said I couldn’t draw), made a few pieces (when I said I couldn’t sew), and started pattern making (there’s no way I would’ve attempted that on my own).

In my life I would’ve stayed on medications and lived with a ‘that’s just what you do’ mentality. Instead, I’m into these weird oils that resulted in a jewelry line where I get to create and design.

In my life I would’ve never had kids because they’d take away from my life. Instead, I’ve learned a new level of selflessness and these little creations have brought unimaginable joy.

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Life for me now consists of being a wife, mom, small business owner, house manager, ministry leader, family member, and friend. While I know where my strength comes from, that’s a lot of ground to manage.

So much of my life has been a tiring race of planning and doing. It’s just ‘what we do’ right? We plan and conquer. We try to get done so we can get on to the next thing and our days become blurs of busyness. I could make a daily life checklist and feel temporarily accomplished but there would be no room for excitement in that.

I believe balance comes from finding enjoyment in the season we’re in. To put down the cell phone, to close the lap top, to rest with God, laugh with my husband, make pancakes with my girl, and hold my teething boy. For me, that’s a deeper level of selflessness.

If you’re feeling bogged down and overwhelmed I challenge you to look at areas of your life that are consuming your time but not benefiting your spirit. What really needs a yes and where can you confidently say no? And then there’s that thing called discipline that comes from dying to your self. Ah, there’s the answer I was looking for.

Be blessed,

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Sacrificial Love

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It’s another week day and I’ve been busy cleaning, making food, changing diapers, and reading children’s books. I’ve been in a good mood working in my purpose and enjoying another day of what God’s called me to. The end of the day is starting to approach and my husband walks through the door, greeting me and the children. I’ve waited expectantly for this moment so that I can be back with my favorite person.

Then something happens.

My mood completely shifts and the tasks I’ve been doing happily, I now act as if they’re burdensome. I was perfectly content doing what I needed to but as soon as he steps through the door I start focusing on all the things he should be helping with.

Somehow he is able to sit down while Alaina is on the toilet yelling “I’m doneeeee” and Elijah is fussing in his bouncy. My mind is now simmering with negative thoughts towards him because of my own selfishness. I don’t take a minute to think about how his day went, what he had to deal with or how his work load was.

“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:45

When did serving my children become easier than serving my spouse?

As a mom I know my children need me and there are many things they can’t do for themselves. My husband is capable of doing everything for himself but I’m his wife and he needs me too.

I want him to feel valued and I want to get my emotions in check so that they don’t wreck the time that we do have together. I want our now to be our best days. Maybe you’ve felt like I have and found yourself in a funky mood that you can’t seem to get out of. I know how that feels and I want us both to not let resentment grow in our hearts. What we intentionally do today will pave the way for our future, let’s put in the work to reap a great harvest years from now.

“Serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.” Galatians 5:13-15

So what does sacrificial love look like?

– Cook their favorite meal
– Pull the trashcan up from the driveway
– If it’s their turn to do the dishes and you know they’ve had a rough day, do them
– Back massage anyone?
– Whatever that thing is that they’ve been asking you over and over to take care of, do that
– take the kids to the park and give your spouse a few hours to just relax

Even if its been awhile since you’ve intentionally done something for your spouse, today is not too late to start.

“Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” John 13:17

I love you Mr. Madrigal

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If you’re looking for a bible study focused on building your marriage try this one by Gary Chapman.

Created for Community

Last night was the launch of The Porch, a married young adults ministry at our church. We gathered together to kick back, share details about ourselves, and to let our kids be kids. We all share a common interest: to develop an authentic connection with one another.

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Our group is something special. We want to see each other succeed, to counter obstacles with hope, and to stand and watch victory wash over our circumstances. That’s rare.

The world says to strive to be better than the man beside you, to only look after yourself and to not care about who you hurt along the way. We say no to all of that because we understand we’re called to more.

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The commentary on Proverbs 27:17 says, “Mental sharpness comes from being around good people. And a meeting of minds can help people see their ideas with new clarity, refine them, and shape them into brilliant insights. This requires discussion partners who can challenge one another and stimulate thought–people who focus on the idea without involving their egos in the discussion; people who know how to attack the thought and not the thinker.”

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The first night was a huge success, the people who were there and the memories we shared will be in my heart forever.

I leave you with this, what’s holding you back from connecting with people? Have you been hurt and are scared to trust again? Do you struggle with being vulnerable? There’s hope in knowing that the pain can be healed, reflect on your heart and take it to the Father.

Be blessed,

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