It’s another week day and I’ve been busy cleaning, making food, changing diapers, and reading children’s books. I’ve been in a good mood working in my purpose and enjoying another day of what God’s called me to. The end of the day is starting to approach and my husband walks through the door, greeting me and the children. I’ve waited expectantly for this moment so that I can be back with my favorite person.
Then something happens.
My mood completely shifts and the tasks I’ve been doing happily, I now act as if they’re burdensome. I was perfectly content doing what I needed to but as soon as he steps through the door I start focusing on all the things he should be helping with.
Somehow he is able to sit down while Alaina is on the toilet yelling “I’m doneeeee” and Elijah is fussing in his bouncy. My mind is now simmering with negative thoughts towards him because of my own selfishness. I don’t take a minute to think about how his day went, what he had to deal with or how his work load was.
“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:45
When did serving my children become easier than serving my spouse?
As a mom I know my children need me and there are many things they can’t do for themselves. My husband is capable of doing everything for himself but I’m his wife and he needs me too.
I want him to feel valued and I want to get my emotions in check so that they don’t wreck the time that we do have together. I want our now to be our best days. Maybe you’ve felt like I have and found yourself in a funky mood that you can’t seem to get out of. I know how that feels and I want us both to not let resentment grow in our hearts. What we intentionally do today will pave the way for our future, let’s put in the work to reap a great harvest years from now.
“Serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.” Galatians 5:13-15
So what does sacrificial love look like?
– Cook their favorite meal
– Pull the trashcan up from the driveway
– If it’s their turn to do the dishes and you know they’ve had a rough day, do them
– Back massage anyone?
– Whatever that thing is that they’ve been asking you over and over to take care of, do that
– take the kids to the park and give your spouse a few hours to just relax
Even if its been awhile since you’ve intentionally done something for your spouse, today is not too late to start.
“Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” John 13:17
I love you Mr. Madrigal
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